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Even the Best Warriors Fail Sometimes

So, here I am, creating a blog focused on helping others learn more about mental illnesses and cope with chronic conditions. It's something I'm very passionate about, for sure, but I need to stress that I am not an expert. In fact, I frequently fail to...

Stuff That Sucks – A Mental Health Book Review

Last month, I picked up a book for my daughter on a whim. “Stuff That Sucks” is a teen self-help styled guide written by Ben Sedley, and it talks about exactly what the title suggests, a whole bunch of sucky stuff. Better than that, it talks about how to deal with it. Want to see what I thought of it? Read on!

Experiencing the Roller Coaster of Bipolar

I’m going to start this post out by confessing something… I LOVE roller coasters. Why does this matter? One of the most common analogies for bipolar disorder is a roller coaster ride. We go from the top of the world to crashing down to depression in what seems like seconds, and all we hope is that it’s a short ride.

5 Ways to Keep Sane While Going Crazy

It happens to every parent. You’re going about your day and then chaos erupts and you’re half a second away from losing your mind. Somewhere between the dog, the baby, the dishes, the chores, and everything else, you’ve lost you and have no idea where to go. Well, let see if I can help with that! How do I keep sane?

2 Years Without Love – A Tale of Postpartum Depression

I was sold a lie. That in itself is bad enough, but the heartbreak of it is I had no idea until it was too late. In fact, many new parents are lied to, every day, and in the most oblivious way. Well wishers and proud parents, all telling you you’ll cherish your little angel. Well, guess what. It’s not necessarily true.

Life with mental illness is hard.  There’s no way around that fact.  For some it’s a constant niggling knowledge that at any moment, everything could go wrong.  For others, it’s a beast the sits on your chest and prevents you from moving or even breathing. You wake up in the morning and it seems to take all of your energy just to roll out of bed and on to the floor.  Not gonna lie, the number of days my depression has left me to shout for help because my blanket was wrinkled is more than I should probably admit.  But still, when your brain is working against you, what can you do but stay afloat?  Mental illness is brutal.

Parenting is hard, too.  There’s no way around that either.  You have all the perfect parents, the desperate parents, the freestyle parents, and so on, all vying to be the best. You’re sitting here in the middle, just trying to stay awake while they tell you how to fix your latest parenting crisis.  Baby won’t sleep?  That’s okay!  There’s a cure!  Kids fighting? We’ve got a few different fixes for that.  Mommy can’t stay awake? Try one of our thousand delightful recipes, guaranteed to wake you up and provide valuable bonding time with your littles. Okay, so, I’m exaggerating a little….but the thought is there.  Parenting is crazy hard work.

When you add those two things together…. well, that gives you a whole new world of hard.  You can become the parent who thanks god her eldest is old enough to cook for the youngest because you can’t even find pants and now you’re sobbing on the floor.  You can be the parent who looks at their newborn babe and instead of a swelling of the heart feels a crushing despair.  You can become the parent who overthinks every single action from your girl because you know that she’s right around the right age to start presenting symptoms, and god…there’s a 10% chance she will.  You become more than just an illness, and more than just a role.

Parenting is hard.  Mental illness is hard.

Parenting with mental illness?  I’m pretty sure we’re superheroes.

Come be a superhero with me.

<3 Shahana

Shahana May

I’m a short 30-something mom of two with Bipolar and a whole host of other junk going on.  I write to hopefully build a community of support for others like me, parents with mental illnesses, and to show some of the ways I’ve learned to make it work. Thank you for joining us!