Okay, it’s a weird title, but it gets the point across. I’m here to talk about goals. I’ve mentioned before on my review of Stuff That Sucks that ACT (acceptance and commitment therapy) is one of my favorite therapies because it speaks to my heart. In it you learn to accept that things sometimes hurt, embrace it, be kind to it, and move on to pursue those things you value. It’s important to set yourself goals and go for them!
That said, I’m really not a master at it.
Setting goals is hard, but keeping them is harder.
These last few weeks have been brutal for me (and thus the whole family). I’ve been “enjoying” the roller coaster ride…in fact, I can’t seem to get off, and now I’m just sick to my stomach. But life continues. There are still bills to pay so I get up each day and go in to work and do my thing. It’s harder to smile, but I muster through. I move a little slower because everything is exhausting, but I’m making it. Unfortunately, it means that some things have had to get set aside, including my regular posting schedule.
See, I’m not really great at pursuing those values. Or at least, not this one. Instead I focused on other things like my health and keeping my family together. It was a hard month, and to be honest, we’re not out of the woods yet. But, I’m getting to a point where I want to get back on track. So, with that, I plan to start a new series that I hope you’ll be willing to join in on. I would like to set a monthly goal. It doesn’t have to be big, just has to be important to you.
As some of you know, I’m planning to move my blog to a new domain name. It’s been in the works for a little while, but there’s still a lot of work to do and that work has been seriously derailed by life. That doesn’t mean, though, that it’s not important to me. In fact, one of my driving values is the outreach of this blog. I’m no one special, but I know there are a lot of others like me who feel completely alone. This blog is a chance to reach out to them and let them know that they aren’t alone, that we are here and we are doing the best we can.
So, instead of beating myself up for faltering, I’m going to set myself a goal.
I will complete the site set up and officially launch by the 31st of May. This will include a whole host of sub-steps that I’m not about to write out here (seriously…it’s tedious and there’s a ton), but when it’s done we’ll have a little party to celebrate (or something like that).
What about Accountability?
Here’s the other side of this project… At the end of the month, I’m going to come back here and tell you how I did. In this case, you should be able to figure it out by the fact that everything’s just a bit different (including the name!), but other months may not be as obvious. So, to keep myself accountable, I will return at the end of each month and tell you how it went!
The goal here is to give yourself, well, a goal. Something to work toward. It could be something small, like remembering to brush your teeth or put the laundry in the hamper. it could be something bigger like finding a new job. And yeah, we may try and we might fail, but that’s okay too. We’re working on it and that’s what’s important.